Too good to be true

 Is there something as being too good? I ask myself. 

Have you ever looked around you either in your workplace, home, college or just among your friends and spotted one that just stands out?

Am not talking about those who act out; who inherently want the spotlight on themselves or those who want everyone to notice them.

Am talking about the silent ones, the ones everyone does not notice.

But if you look closely you would find that you can actually pick them out from a crowd.

They portray this kind of superhuman nature…they are just too good whatever you throw at them they take it all within their stride.

You can be rude and arrogant to the level you know even you can’t take if it was reciprocated to you.

As overbearing as you can be they still see you as their friend, their spouse, their companion, their student, their patient.

It is as if God created them with an extra chromosome of kindness. Not that they pretend to be kind in order to blackmail you or laugh at you behind your back.

They are just so good naturally.

But that does not give us the right to overuse them or even take advantage of their extra chromosome of niceness

They are after all human with feelings just like the rest of us. 

You might say that I have not been around for too long to be able to discern the real friends from the fake in the people who surround you.

I believe by being human I qualify to say this, at some point we all get tired.

We get tired of picking up after a spouse that just does not know where to put the dirty laundry, a child that throws his toys all over the living room or tired of listening to your whining about life when you totally refuse to do something about your circumstances.

I know quite well that I fall squarely into that third category of whiners and my apologies to all whom have found me unbearable at one point or another.

I am not saying that if you have problems that you keep them to yourself, it we all did that I think that the number of people dying from stressed related illnesses would in the least triple.

I’m just saying that you have people around you who truly love and care for you, some with supernatural power to contain understand and appreciate your flaws.

Those you should not take for granted.

They mostly like to play the secondary role in your life being an active listener to your problems, listening and celebrating your victories and successes.

As such it is very easy to ignore them or forget that they have lives of their own that do not actually revolve around you.

They might even be facing worse of problems than you are and have either chosen not to tell you about them or made several attempts to tell you about them many of which you failed to recognize.

It would be nice to send them a thank you note once in a while and let them know that you appreciate them.

You could take them out for dinner buy them something  good to wear or a piece of jewelry it doesn’t have to be something expensive you could even choose to do their laundry (or pay for someone to do it)

Skeptics argue that giving away a lot of control to others helps them manipulate you as they pass through your life. I disagree not all people plan to leave you, some of them you just push away when you stop caring.

Growing up, my parents always taught me the value of relationships and that it was the little things that always mattered at the end of the day.

How you treat your super power friend, relative, spouse or client will determine exactly how long they will stay in your life.

No one will come to you and pinpoint who these people are, you have to do it for yourself and you also have to appraise them and determine how much they mean to your life.

Ask yourself the hard questions whether they are worth keeping around and re-evaluate your relationships to see what you can afford to change in order to make it work for the better.

It’s not rocket science: Some people are just Too good to be true!